How to Wash Away Demons With Soap
Using Exclusion to Drive Your Purpose…
There's a quiet sting that comes with exclusion. It's not a loud, dramatic pain, but a subtle, persistent ache that whispers, "You don't belong here." Maybe it's a social group you're no longer part of, a friend who's suddenly distant, or even the heartbreaking reality of feeling like an outsider in your own family. The feeling can make you question everything about yourself, and for a time, it can feel like a part of you is missing.
I've been there. I know the feeling of being on the outside looking in, of trying so hard to squeeze myself into a space where I clearly didn't fit. You try to figure out what you did wrong. Was it something you said? Something you didn't say? You replay conversations, scrutinize every interaction, searching for the moment you messed up. But here’s a hard truth I had to learn: you can’t fight for a place in someone’s life who doesn’t want you there. That kind of fighting only drains your energy and chips away at your self-worth. It's a battle you're not meant to win, because the victory isn't in forcing a connection, but in finding your own peace.
For me, that path to peace began with my hands. When the sting of rejection was raw, I found solace in the warmth of my soap lab and poured my focus into creating. The process of blending oils, adding scents, and watching the mixtures transform into something beautiful and useful was a calm for my spirit. My collections became more than just products; they were physical manifestations of my own healing journey. With every bar of soap I made and every lotion I poured, I was transforming a feeling of pain into a tangible product of purpose. It was a powerful reminder that I was capable of creating something good, something that mattered, even when I felt like I had nothing.
This journey taught me that sometimes, you just have to walk away. It's not about giving up; it's about choosing yourself. When you step back from situations and people who diminish you, you create space for something better. You’re not alone in this feeling, and it’s important to remember that sometimes, the rejection has nothing to do with you. The people who exclude you may be fighting their own private battles, their own demons, and you've simply been caught in the crosshairs. Their actions are a reflection of their pain, not your worth.
So, what do you do with the space that's left behind? You don't just sit and ruminate in the quiet. You get up and you move. You write down the swirling thoughts in a journal, not to stew in them, but to get them out of your head and onto the page. You go for a walk, let the fresh air fill your lungs, and get those positive endorphins flowing. It's a simple act, but it's an act of self-care and a way to remind your body and mind that you are moving forward. You find a hobby, no matter how small. It could be learning to play a song on a guitar, knitting a scarf, or even just doodling on a piece of paper and coloring it in. These simple acts of creation are a way to pour your energy into something positive and to remember the joy of making something with your own hands.
The pain of exclusion is real, but it doesn't have to be the end of your story. It can be a starting point. It can be the reason you find a new passion, a new purpose, and a new community of people who truly see and value you. You can transform that pain into sunshine, one small step, one created thing, at a time. My journey with Fleur on The Farm saved me, and it can save you too. You are seen, you are heard, and you are not alone.
